Skip to main content

Racist habits

I write this post because a reader via the contact form asked my opinion on why racism persists in modern society. Well, I think it's all about labeling, directing opinion and hate. There are five pillars that contribute to these circumstance.

  1. Family. What is talked in a family, including casual chat, indirectly shapes the child's opinion (consciously or not). Early education in family plays the most important role in forming the mindset of our children. I am pessimistic if their parents also racist. So watch your mouth!
  2. Religious leaders. Some religious leaders are fanatical and then simply articulate verses in the holy book literally (verbatim) without understanding the context of the circumstances when the verse was written, or just quoting a snippet by ignoring the context as a whole. So watch your understanding!
  3. Politicians or public figure. One example is the deliberate use of the term "Chinese virus" to provoke discrimination, also for political interests. So watch your mouth!
  4. Mass media. Media companies are aware that sensitive news relating to the privacy of public figures, ethnicity, religion, race, and skin color, potentially will generate money and readers attentions. So watch your pen!
  5. EGO. The nature of human EGO is tends to want to be seen "MORE" than others and reluctant to be rivaled. So watch your EGO!

Our mouth is sharper than a knife.

I purposely only write the points in this post because I'm sure you can understand it from what you have known, read and hear so far. The matters is how you stop it, at least to people around you. Maybe I'm missed something essential, so please ponder and describe it by yourself, or add your thoughts in the comment form. Thanks for reading.


  1. Keluarga dan lingkungan pergaulan. Itu sangat memengaruhi. Saya pernah mengalami berpikir dan bersikap rasis karena pengaruh lingkungan.

    1. Anda benar. Lingkungan pergaulan juga berpengaruh terhadap mindset anak.
      Apakah Anda bersedia berbagi pengalaman Anda sendiri seperti yang Anda sebutkan di atas? Lalu apa yang membuat Anda bisa berubah?

    2. As someone with reason to believe in God, I honestly think prayer for a more open outlook can help us overcome any of the cultural/historical/ancestral biases you mention. Such prayer to the God who created us all should instantly reveal the folly of prejudice. That doesn't mean pretending to like people on the basis of skin color. It just means liking people on the basis of their character regardless of skin color, as MLK so rightly put it.

    3. Ross5/9/23

      i also hope religion can play a role. The sad news was the decline of church in line with the advancement of human's logic in science. More smart, tend to more logical in thinking.

  2. Racism, the fear of the other in other words, will never go away no matter what well meaning people like you try to do something about it.

    1. I'm not sure what you mean by "the fear of the other" in relation to racism. I think, fear of strangers might be some kind of phobia.

    2. It doesn't mean we just keep silence and do nothing.

  3. Hey!! Thanks for sharing this link -- I came over from the comment you left on my blog Crispy Confessions.
    I agree with your points that racism -- or rather racist and prejudice beliefs -- come about from the people you mentioned. I would also add that it can come about from your peers & their families & the society that you grew up in. We aren't born as racists. We didn't distinguish between "race" as kids. In fact, as a half Korean half white, I never even realized that my own parents were different races until society told me they were & how my Korean mother was treated different as a result from my white American father.

    So, if these things are responsible for racism... then what do you think we should do combat that? Should we simply work on eliminating race entirely? Should we create new racial terms and boundaries which is probably necessary considering the rise of the multiracial population and families? Or should we just focus on reeducating people, creating more tolerant & multiracial communities, and stop focusing on the color of the skin and race? But if we cease to focus on the color of the skin and problems that people face as a result... then wouldn't that also mean that we are ignoring the race problem in America?
    I don't know.. there is sooo much more to race..

    1. Hi Helen, thanks for adding another good point. You are right that peers and society milieu in which we grew up also have an effect.

      Comments from Ramana Rajgopaul above may be true, considering the fact that racism still exists until today. Or like the commnent from Ellen Hawley below : "All you need to do is spew venom".
      We as ordinary people may not have much influence to answer your global questions (and I think rather imaginary), like eliminating race entirely or create new racial terms. But it doesn't mean that we don't need to do anything. Within my own family, I instilled the awareness to children that human babies absolutely have NO choice to be born into the desired race, nor into a wealthy family. That choice is in the hand of God. It's not their fault if they were born as black, white or yellow. Shall we blame to God?
      This is a small thing that I do and hope readers will do the same for their children. End of words, a garden filled with various species of flowers is more beautiful than just one species.

  4. I've lived long enough now to have seen shifts in the levels of racism in the two countries I know, the US and Britain. I think increasing numbers of whites are shocked by overt racism (that's not to say they're free of prejudice, but it's still progress, and important), but a small number are becoming openly, horrifyingly racist. My best guess is that the second change is partly in response to seeing demographic changes. Whites in the US won't be the majority for ever. And part of it is inflamed by politicians and parts of the media--they've been given permission, and they love it. It's a cheap way for a politician to gather followers. It doesn't cost money and it doesn't involve solving complex problems. All you need to do is spew venom.

    1. Hi Ellen Hawley, I think the fear of demographic changes is primitive scariness as nowadays the intercontinental mobility is very fast. Modern technology in transportation and communication has slowly brought humans to the age of communal world. The virtual world is the first sign where humans have been connected without borders.

      Btw, I'm impressed by your words : "All you need to do is spew venom".
      That's right!

  5. Setuju dengan artikel ini. Salah satu pilar yang berkontribusi terhadap rasisme itu adalah rumah tangga. Karena anak2 cendrung meniru apa yang mereka saksikan dalam rumah tangga. selamat malam, Mas. Terima kasih telah berbagi.

    1. Terimakasih. Salam buat Anda.


Post a Comment

NOTE: comment moderation is activated due to a lot of spam comments. Comments containing racial hatred, personal attacks, or advertising are strictly prohibited.


A musings about friend and enemy

A story about enemy (an essay). When the fierce battle between two group of armies has ended, there's someone who still confused and then asking two question to each soldier on the both side: "Did you know anyone who you kill?" Then, each one on the two group answered NO. "Well, did all your victims on this battlefield ever make any mistake on you?" Again the answer is NO. So my question to readers of this blog : Who is your real enemy? A story about friend (true story). Long time ago I had a friend who was rich and charitable. I know he had a lot of friends when he still in good condition. But then he was often sickly and most of his wealth has depleted due to medical treatment. One day I met him at his house. I felt like he live lonely. Along with our talk, I suggest him to call his friends to gather together with the hope he will feel good after that. Did you know of his answer to me? He said: "I feels most of my friends just like stay in my memory. They

Waiting In Line.

What? Talking about waiting in line? Yeah! Why not? Maybe you think this is a useless, trivial topic. But I witnessed several incidents of scrambling over the distribution of free basic food. Either the aid was from the government or from the UN. Even some people died as a result of being trampled under foot. It could be that the distribution method is not done correctly. But I think it's more about people's patience. In many cases, maybe you have heard stories about the method of bribing officers so that their wishes can be processed more quickly without having to queue. I have not found a study/research about which countries are the most disciplined in queuing. But from what I have heard and read so far, it is Japan. Changing the character of an adult (or an old person) is not easy. It's easier to educate children from birth. I'm talking about this topic not because I'm better than you. I'm just thinking about how to shape the character of our children as the

Between logic and unlogic - science and faith

Maybe this post can be used as a reflection of how you deal with logic and faith (unlogic). After that, let people know of what you think. Just see how you react to this post.If you're very religious people (almost fanatic) then I guess your reaction will be very different to those who think more logical in response to various occurrence in these universe or even to your daily life. Take an example on a plane crash. Logical approach would yield the answer that lead to "human error" or "engine failure" and then find ideas to fix it. Religious approach will yield the answer that lead to "God's will (fate)". Or... perhaps you are in between them which it called moderate. Can you compare or even combine the two of the flowchart above? If you can, then I will say you are being in best efforts. Why? Because... even sophisticated computer was run based on the combination of two signals namely positive and negative. What distinguishes human from robot is a