I used the term "night worker ladies" for the women who worked in the business of night entertainment (pub, cafe, discotheque, night club, etc), with the task to accompany for drank the guests who came for pleasure and make them happy. Several night entertainment venues in Indonesia used the term "Purel", "Ladies", "PR" (even local or import). My friend from China say them as "bei cuo siao cie" (sorry if I typed incorrect pinyin). Their income is based on the number of hours that was gathered from accompanying their guest and money tips.
At this time I worked in one of the best night entertainment, with the position on the managerial level. I often saw several of them (night worker ladies) got reprimand from their superiors (usually called Momy) because absent. At one time, I ask to one of them who's often absent, just to know what's the problem. Our conversation was as follows (translated in English):
Me: "Why you often absent?" (for a long time she kept silent with the head bowed down).
Me: "I cares to you. That's why I talk to you".
She: "My neighbor often mock me when knowing I went out in the night. They humiliate me. Actually my aim is just to looking for money, for buy my baby's milk, because I am single-parent" (she began to cry while saying it and my feeling became touched to her. Difficult to continue the next question)"
Me: "Really I don't like the person who just critic but cannot give the way-out. Okay, I just want to give you my view, next is up to you to choose it. I will ask you a few questions and you do not have to answer it, that is:
First... I did not hope you work like this forever. Make a target as a night worker lady, perhaps for 1 year... 3 years... or...?
Second... if your baby cry because of hungry and you have no money as a mother whether your tears will goes down? Did your neighbor give you some money and care about it? Maybe parent will help you but one day they will go-forever. Your brothers also have their own family.
(She still keeps silent with tears fall down on her cheek)
Third... use your money wisely and keep the rest. After you feel enough to begin the small-scale business, stop as night worker lady and start a new life with your own effort".
She: "I have not any skill or good education (replied with an empty view). Can you give me one way-out?"
(I felt silent and said in my heart: "God, what should I tell to her?". Honest, I could not help her financially.)
Me: "Care to your parents. Give a little to the poor. Pray seriously to God and ask Him to bless you. Maybe one day He will send you a wise man who will take you from the dark cloud"
She: "I ever pray to God but no answer"
Me: "You must pray until God's mercy touching you. Pray twice, three times, 100x, 1000x...? UNTIL GOD MERCY TOUCHING YOU! Means, how deep your prayer in your soul, not the amount.
(Then she look at me with sharp gaze but I don't know what is she think about. Finally I end these discussion and let her to work again).
Next... what is your view about night worker ladies? Immoral? Social disease? or more realistic? Only a feeling of pity is not enough to ease their sufferings. Take the action, although a little (like counseling, donation, etc). They are also being in place around you!
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